Dr. Laura’s N-word Rant- Ain’t Nobody Shocked
By Miss Blurbette
It’s that time again, the N-Word has reared its ugly head and this time from the vile and tainted mouth of Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Dr. Laura, a socially conservative “commentator” is no stranger to controversy having had her daytime talk show cancelled after she declared homosexuality to be a biological error. The backlash she received even spawned the “ Midterms” episode on The West Wing in which President Barlett laid into the character Dr. Jacobs for her view of homosexuality as an abomination, citing biblical references to support her beliefs. When challenged with other biblical inconsistencies and punishments that didn’t sit with societies modern logic, such as selling one’s daughter into slavery and punishment by stoning for working on the Sabbath, Jacobs was put in her place…as was Dr. Laura.
Having not learned her lesson, Dr. Laura took a call this week from an African American woman married to a white man who called in to express her hurt and ask for advice to deal with relatives and friends that all too comfortably make derogatory racial comments in her presence. Dr. Laura’s response was to excuse the behavior by saying, “Black guys use it all the time. Turn on HBO and listen to a black comic, and all you hear is n****, n*****, n*****. I don’t get it. If anybody without enough melanin says it, it’s a horrible thing. But when black people say it, it’s affectionate. It’s very confusing.”
After a short break for commercial, the caller expressed her shock at Dr. Laura’s free use of the N-word to which she replied, “If you’re that hypersensitive about color and don’t have a sense of humor, don’t marry outside of your race,” Schlessinger said after hanging up with the caller.
Personally, I’m not shocked that the N-word fell so easily from Dr. Laura’s lips. I’m not even surprised that one of her excuses for comfort with saying the word was to tell her audience that she employed a black man as a bodyguard and to show her comfort with the melanin riddled man, she once asked him to be on her basketball team because “white men can’t jump.” Much akin to “Some of my best friends (And even my maid) is black…so I get you people and I can say these things.”This mentality is not new to any of us. It’s so common we have t-shirts printed and regularly sold with replies.
I have two issues with the entire saga; the first is that I’m so tired of white people or any others arguing that it’s completely acceptable for them to use the N-Word because Black people do it. Well, we get followed around retail stores, stopped (and sometimes even murdered) by police simply because our skin tone IS “suspicious behavior”, have an unfair and unbalanced rate of incarceration, face discrimination daily and must deal with the remnants of slavery, Reconstruction, Jim Crow and the Tea Party every day and until a white person can say that, they don’t have the right to do as we do. They have not walked a mile, for even a minute, in our shoes.
I have had the debate many a time with someone that asks why they cannot use the N-word and my question to them is always, “Why would you want to and to whom?” Crickets! I will not excuse use of the N-word because I do not use it. It has no place in my life and there is no one in my circle to whom I would refer to as a slave master would to a slave. I understand it has taken on new meaning with the younger generation and is now used as a term of endearment but my heart will never be touched by someone calling me their Nigger or their Bitch. If it can be used to hurt, it cannot be used to heal.
Is it a double standard, why yes, yes it is! It’s no different than the double standards which exist between men and women, homosexuals and heterosexuals, Atheists and religious types and every other. It’s not right, but it is.
My second issue with Dr. Laura’s reply to the caller is her denial of that woman’s integrity, dignity and identity by saying that if she can’t take the racist heat, she shouldn’t have jumped the broom with a white man. I wonder if as a Jewish woman, Dr. Laura would feel it acceptable for her spouse’s friends and family to refer to her as a kike or joke about the Holocaust. I doubt it. Marrying someone you love is not an entitlement to others to belittle, degrade or insult you. Having been in an Inter-racial marriage, I relate all too well to the caller, especially when just after our wedding our friends always turned the question of “OMG, so what did your parents think—(inference–when you married that black woman)” to my Ex-Husband. What they thought was an innocent question revealed to me their inner prejudice. Why didn’t they ask me that question? Because in their minds, they felt he married beneath him and knew their parents—though all would claim they had not a prejudice bone in their bodies—would be appalled if they brought home a Black man/woman. They didn’t ask the question of me and my parents were of equal if not better social standing. In fact, better educated. Why didn’t they consider it a shock to my parents as well??? Pure prejudice and acceptance of social stereotypes made them think that pairing was a step up for me and my parents ought to be grateful I was rescued from “the black experience” by a white man. It’s that prejudice they can excuse by saying some of their “best friends are……” and for people like them, that’s enough. For the rest of us, it’s a red flag.
We already knew Dr. Laura was a homophobic bigot and racist….now the rest of the world knows too. The true test will be whether or not they will continue to tune in and support her views or sign off in protest. By allowing and accepting bigotry, you are just as accountable as the one doing it. Enough of that. Enough! As Dr. Maya Angelou once said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe the… the first time.”